“When I think and reflect on why I find it so satisfying to change my habits, values and actions, it all comes down to one thing. I have a strong why.”
Many people struggle to understand why I would want to pair down my possessions, reduce complexity, reduce reliance on money etc. And for the ones that do understand, mostly don’t think to apply those changes to their life, even if they can see the value in it. I think that with any change, the core motivator has to be a clear and unmistakable why.
What do I mean by that? Well lets take something as simple as owning a car. When you turn 18 and decide to purchase a car, not only are you doing it out of conditioning, but there are a million deep “why” reasons hidden beneath that purchase. Such as Freedom, Self-Reliance and Independence, Ability to work, Happiness, Ceasing use of public transport etc. There is way more whys (reasons) to own a car, than to not own a car. For most of us anyway.
So then let’s apply that to something that isn’t thrust upon us, like saving money, investing, or reducing consumerism. In my case for example, lets look at reducing consumerism. Well for me, my whys look something like this:
- Happiness isn’t derived from things or new purchases
- I have more money to spend on real needs or investments. Reduced financial pressure
- My mind is challenged to think of alternative ways to acquire something
- I learn to fix, or build things where possible. Therefore increasing skills that would have otherwise lied dormant
- I pursue life giving activities
- I have more time, due to having more money
- Less time spent maintaining or storing stuff
- Much less waste
- I am more likely to share than to buy. Increased sense of community
- I am focused more on my relationships and learning for entertainment
As you can see, there are a lot of deeply held why’s when it comes to just this one change I have made. These are the types of reasons that will really drive you to make a difference in your life. Not only will you have more inner conviction with your choices, but you will become clearer about what values mean the most to you, and how to express those values with physical actions. And the best bit, is you can ponder and discover these whys for everything you might want to change. It is not only going to help you when trying to create better things for your life, but you will start to become aware of all the choices you are making.
For me, this process of finding deeply held whys, has generated a lot of reflection in every area of my life. My goal is to create a life where every single action I take has a long list of whys to back me up, eliminating all conditioned activity and thought.
What do you think about whys? Do you ever reflect on your life and wonder why some positive behavior changes don’t stick? Let me know 🙂