– Reece Pater
We are all taught to derive our happiness from external sources. In this article I want to explicitly focus on money, as one of the focal sources people mistakenly try to find happiness.
Money is one of the only universal ideas that drives and dictates the actions of most of the population. In most lives, it is the only reason that we wake up in the morning and go to jobs that we don’t generally enjoy. Money is undoubtably one of the most essential elements to living a happy and balanced life. So why is there so many people that never have enough, and succumb to pressures surrounding it?
I believe that people confuse having money, with spending money…..and spending money with happiness. We all know that ‘having money’ feels great. We feel secure and safe. But when we have money, it generally doesn’t stick around for long. We have a habit of spending our money, no matter how justified the expenditure is. In 95% of cases, the spent money is an attempt to create the feeling of happiness. An attempt at filling a small void.
I believe the key to this whole money conudrum, is in the realisation of where happiness actually comes from.
Look inwards for happiness.
What does that mean? It means searching your own soul for the purest joy you will ever find. It is all in a journey of self-discovery. It means finding your passion for living your life in your unique way. Finding what makes you tick outside of making money. It means living your own journey, contributing your skills to everyone around you and connecting with your true purpose.
Once you find some answers or directions toward answering these life questions, the faster you will realise that money doesn’t contribute any happiness to your life outside of providing the fundamentals for your living situation. Having a roof over your head, food for your body, and providing the resources to fuel your passions and values.
This is truly a shift in money consciousness. In my experience, once money is not the sole reason behind your choices, you are free to do whatever you feel the most deeply about. You are able to work harder than ever, save more money than ever, and have the strength to know that spending your money on material possessions doesn’t create happiness. Rather it is a small fleeting thrill that will solve no real problem or add any real value to you. The value of money is reduced to a mere tool in creating the life you dream about. Instead of one that everyone tells you you need. You do not feel the need to spend money for status symbolisms or merely to keep up with other people.
During my journey of self-discovery, I am at a stage where I am making the most money I have ever made, and saving about 65% of my income. Money is flowing in my life in such a healthy way, and I know that a wealthy life is waiting for my partner and I. There is no unneccessary spending and I am actually in the begginings of creating an investment portfolio. It seems that the life that most of us wish we could have is in its early begginings in my experience, and only because I have learnt the true source of happiness and value of money in a balanced life.
I have searched the truest origin of living a happy and fulfilling life and now this is beginning to show up as one of the best financial decisions I have ever made.
Does money control your decisions? Do you have control of your money?