Going through my teenage years I grappled with the idea of conforming with life. Working a 9 to 5 until your 65 in all honesty, sounded like hell on earth to me. It didn’t help that I was never focused on a particular career or had any aspirations for what I wanted to do with my life. All I knew is that I wanted to be happy. That’s it. Simply happy. And I have based my life around this ever since.
Commonsense told me that happiness was a highly valued goal. Yet what society demonstrated as “common” and acceptable life practice, did not make any “sense” to me. I had (have) a lot of talents and gifts, yet they didn’t (don’t) seem to fit into an acceptable criteria for life.
I always knew I was a good guy. I value happiness, respect others and generally do my best. Therefore it was extremely defeating when the teenage years came to an end, and I was no closer to finding a path in life. I was completely clueless and lost, faced with the decision to conform, or be true to myself. As a consequence the only information I felt I could agreeably act upon, was my gut. The inner voice that I believe we all hear.
See I always felt deep inside that I was meant to become a man of purpose. To achieve and contribute something meaningful. Something of value, that lends itself to great fulfillment. Something I can be proud of.
This inner navigation system has been my greatest ally since I began my spiritual journey a few years ago. Sure, this way of life has caused me and others a lot of pain, and resulted in me seeming to be rebelling against accepted norms for a period of time. What surfaced during these years of trusting myself rather than others, has been deeply satisfying. I feel as though each action I have taken has led me to something greater.
Consider I was working as a general labourer, indulging in common Australian culture, drinking, socialising and partying. To following my passion in the gym, reading and learning about life, trying many different jobs, meeting *the perfect girl*, eventually landing a job in the education industry, and now hopefully helping a few people each day with a post on this blog. A journey that could have only flourished with the help of my inner guidance. And it is just the beginning.
I can confidently say that I still have not found the true purpose of my life yet, but I am excited to continue along my unique path. Not the conditioned path, or somebody else’s path. I feel like the life I have created is mine, defined by my values and beliefs. A freedom is present that I cannot explain. But it leaves me feeling absolutely content at the end of each day.
Whether these words have any influence on your life doesn’t so much matter. The expression of how I feel about leaving behind society’s ideals is one that I wish to share with whoever is paying attention.
Don’t be common. Be you. You are unique for a reason.
The beautiful challenge is to find out why.