This is a guest post from Joshua Giuliani, founder of myawakening.com.au. He is an enthusiastic and dedicated mediator of conversations surrounding consciousness and open mindedness. This post focuses in on the liberation that comes with understanding how your brain influences your ability to take responsibility for your life. Enjoy 🙂
Moving out of home had a great influence on my mental and philosophical growth, an unintended flow-on consequence of exposing myself to new people with new ideas and being open to those new concepts. I could not have planned it better really – at the time of moving I had no idea about, nor was I interested in, the concept of mental and philosophical growth. Yet, very quickly I came to question my attitude towards life, people, religion, the concept of thought, interaction, social conditioning and the environment – then, after some reading and resourceful conversations, I dropped it all and started developing my own answers.
I always had a tendency to challenge rhetoric, whether it was news reports, history books, organized religion – if it was being delivered as fact I always wondered if there was more to the story. Is there something I’m not being told? Who benefits from this version? How does it affect people who accept it? This mindset developed within me an interest in history and geo-politics early in life, but came up short of being anything more than just an interest. The social, environmental and lifestyle change that came with moving out of home however, stimulated that mindset, and I think made it easier for me to accept that the way I used to think, view the world and act was un-resourceful – and that a reframe was required.
I moved from the suburbs to the culturally rich inner city of Melbourne. It wasn’t long before I was rubbing shoulders with some of Melbourne’s most experienced high-achievers who were always willing to offer advice and new perspectives. I began reading books and implementing new habits that they suggested and even attended their classes in some cases. These entrepreneurs, doers, NLP coaches and friends became my mentors, and were instrumental in developing my reframe.
So, what was the reframe? What is my new mentality? It’s simple.
“We are in FULL control!”
It became apparent that although everybody has things they want to achieve or improve on, and a vision of a better life as well as an understanding of how to make that vision a reality, not a lot of people actually do anything about it – and they place the blame on an external force. Something or someone is preventing them from taking action.
“I really want to be a florist; it will make me so happy – I just don’t have enough savings to make it happen though, so I’ll work a few more years at the job I hate until I’m ready.” Money is to blame.
“He is a real jerk. He makes me so angry. Why does he do this to me?” He is to blame.
“I would love to read more, but I’m just too lazy.” Their lack of motivation is to blame.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a habitual change like going to the gym more, a lifestyle change like quitting your job and starting your own business, or a mentality change like becoming a more positive individual, you CAN make it happen. That is my new reality.
The best thing I ever learnt was that I could harness the power of my brain if I wanted to. A lot of people see it as a separate entity to them; like it’s hardwired a certain way and they can’t change that. An NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) coach taught me early on that our brain produces all our emotions, actions and thoughts. My brain is the source – not an external force. When you can comprehend this notion, you realize control and change really is achievable.
I decided from then on that I would no longer blame external forces. If I wanted to achieve something I worked out how to do it. If I felt an emotion or mindset was un-resourceful, I worked to remove it.
That reframe, yet so simple, absolutely shattered my previous way of thinking. All of a sudden I was responsible for my own actions, for my own future – external forces no longer played a part in who I was or what I could achieve. I was accountable for the way I felt, and what I did. I didn’t blame anyone or anything else anymore. Mentally, physically, holistically – I became the biggest influence on my own personal development and success.
Now, with this new mentality, I am full of drive. I’m motivated and inspired to do great things, and be the best version of myself, which I know is achievable – I simply need to work out how. My brain works with me, not against me.
I am happier, more inspired and full of purpose – all achieved by accepting one simple notion: “We are in FULL control.”
I really am lucky to have a whole bunch of like-minded friends and mentors who are on the same journey as I am. They helped me immensely to develop a much more resourceful way of thinking, and I recommend you finding individuals just like them to start a discussion with also. The conversations you will have are invaluable.
If you are interested in finding out what you can do to begin thinking in a resourceful way and to become a more effective human, download my eBook ‘5 Simple Ways to Self-Improve’ at myawakening.com.au/free.